Need vs Urge

Food, water, air, rest, and shelter
We need this at the core centre
These are the most basic human needs
And aren't dependent on your deeds

But, apart from what the body pleads
There are psycho-socio-eco needs
Followed by mindset and self actualization
These are things that lead to motivation

If we analyze the basics,
You'll notice this
A man will die without water or food
And we need oxygen irrespective of aptitude
Hypothermia and hyperthermia, the elements and weather
Frost bites and heat strokes can kill us if unprotected without shelter
Exhaustion and lack of sleep can actually lead to death
If you don't shut those peepers, you'll probably begin to hallucinate

But what about sex? 
Let's look at the specs
Turns out, no one ever died due to lack of it!
And sure, even I'll admit
Sex is a strong desire, like an urge
If you don't have it regularly or ever, you won't drown and submerge
Sure, regular sex will keep the mind healthy and happy
Balance out the hormones and make you feel a bit stress-free
And although it's not a basic human need
For many, its gratification is their only creed

That being said, the power of the flesh
Is quite a complicated, tangled mesh
Many heroes have been destroyed
Do you recall the battle of Troy?
The history of mankind is plagued with such stories
Over religion and flesh, more than territory

I was born and raised Catholic, that's true
I don't agree with a tenet, among other few
I feel the clergy and religious personnel shoul be permitted a spouse
That's just my opinion; it'll reduce temptation in the house
Either way, if you choose priestly robes
You better not be disrespecting those
There's always a choice, you can still walk out
If it's not for you, or if you're having doubts
Just like married people should'nt cheat; it's adultery
Both these cases are instances of treachery

Sex is a drive; it's not a need, but an urge
All of your time or thoughts on it, do not splurge!
- RUELHA
www.ruelha.com
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2 Comments

  1. “Sex is a drive; it’s not a need, but an urge”

    Of Course That Depends on the Definition of Sex.

    And oF Course Definitions Change Depending on Cultural Influences Indeed.

    For instance, After Bill Clinton “Changed The Definition” Of ‘Sex’, Somewhat,
    In Suggesting
    Oral Sex
    Wasn’t
    Sex, Strangely
    Enough (Not really)
    Oral Sex Became
    More Common Place
    Among Younger folks
    Than Intercourse; True,

    it Became More Socially
    Acceptable too as the President
    Suggested it Wasn’t even ‘Sex’…

    Hehe, See How this Works or Does Not;

    Cultural Morals Determine Indeed What Are
    Now More Needs Versus Urges Culturally As

    That Also Applies to More Primitive Cultures Without
    Much Technology Where the VERY MOST IMPORTANT
    WORK IS CULTURALLY DETERMINED AS ‘THE WORK
    OF THE NIGHT’ All the Way From Puberty Where there are
    Actually No Words in their Language for Homosexuality or Masturbation.

    Yet Again, Without the ‘Work of the Night’ and little Technology And an All
    Hands Effort of the Village Required to Even Survive SEX IS THE NUMBER
    ONE PRIORITY OF NEED AND

    This is Why We See

    So Much so-Called ‘Porn’

    In More So-called Primitive

    Civilizations too As If there is

    Not Enough Sex The Whole Tribe Goes
    Away And Does Not Return As the Social Group Exists now then…

    Yes, Yes, Obviously Some Folks Are Born With Very Low Libidos…

    Yes, Yes, Science Shows if Enough Social Stress Accompanies a
    Pregnancy in the Womb Folks Are Born More with a Homosexual
    Propensity as some Folks Suggest that Homosexual Sex is not

    REAL SEX TOO…

    AGAIN, DEPENDS
    ON THE CULTURAL DEFINITION(s).

    So Let’s Look At Masturbation and
    Porn in the World Today (Yet Most
    Folks do Indeed Lie about it Most
    Every day of their Life When Asked)

    Yes, Science Shows That Overall Around
    the Globe 78 Percent of Males And Females
    Do Indeed Engage in Masturbation; And in the
    United States Specifically 92 Percent of Males
    And 76 Percent of Females; So, Indeed, Culture Makes

    A Huge Difference Now on What Folks Do to Take Care of
    What this Drive, This Urge, This Want, This Need Actually

    Is and Truly 100 Percent Absolute Black and White Thinking
    Just Won’t Work on an Individual Basis; Some Folks DO NEED
    SEX TO SURVIVE; SOME SOCIETIES DO NEED SEX TO SURVIVE
    WITH AN ENTIRE GROUP EFFORT TOO AS SCIENCE SHOWS IS TRUE.

    Additionally, Science Shows That in the United States 98 Percent of
    Males View Pornography and 73 Percent of Females Do As Well…

    So How Might that apply to the Needs of the Individual. Well It is true,

    Some Psychopathic Leaning Folks Either Born or Bred That Way Have
    No Ability to Feel the Warm Oxytocin Connections That Bond Human Beings

    in The Actual Warmth in Emotional Feelings of Love; For them, All Love really

    Is is Sex

    For Them

    Indeed if There is

    No Sex as a Need in
    A Relationship There is

    Not Even A Temporary

    Bond Lasting 15 Minutes

    Or Whatever it Takes For

    Only Pleasure to Make that Bond
    That Keeps a Relationship together
    if it Satisfies that Only Need that Makes
    A Relationship Real to that Poor Individual

    Who has No Resources of the Warmth of Love;

    Yes Again, Sadly Either Bred through Neglect and
    Abuse that way or even Sadder Born that Way as

    It is a Biological

    Deficit some
    Humans Do Not Have…

    Beyond These Considerations,

    Sadly Again for Cultures That Do Not
    Understand All the Benefits of A Healthy
    Balanced Sex Life As that is Applicable
    to Males Having a 50 Percent Less Chance

    Of Dying From a Heart Attack with Two Orgasms
    A Week On average compared to One as It’s Also

    Worth Noting That Men are Wired Differently For Sex
    Than Women in General As Men Are Wired more For Variety
    And Women More For Monogamous Relationships for
    Nurturing the Child And Of Course Exceptions on
    Both Sides and the ‘Tween Do Come As well

    In the Biology of All the Colors And
    And Shades of Grey Beyond 50

    That Makes Us Humans With
    Diversity in All Drives, Urges,
    And What is Actually Different

    In Needs Among Different

    Individuals And Cultures too

    As the Great Modern Philosopher
    Alan Watts Said Who Studied All Cultures
    And Religions Across the Globe too, There are

    Some Human Beings who Are So In touch With
    Higher Levels of Experiencing the World in ‘Spiritual’ Pleasurable

    Ways That Sex Becomes A Second Rate of Pleasure Indeed…

    And It’s True i Was Born that Way and It’s True if i Never ever

    Had Sex i Wouldn’t Still Be Missing The Best Pleasures of All In Life…

    However, Never the Less my Libido WaS EXTREMELY HIGH AND

    IN A PLACE OF GREAT IGNORANCE IN CULTURE AS THAT
    APPLIES TO HEALTHY LEVELS OF SEXUAL INTELLIGENCE

    FOR ME THAT MEANT

    MANY DAYS

    AND HOURS

    EXPERIENCING

    Epididymal Hypertension

    As i am Doing may Very Best
    to Be Politically Correct on Your
    Blog too And It’s True This is Another

    Difference Why Overall All Sexual Releases

    May Be Perceived as More a Need For A Male than A Female…
    Particularly, if There is No One around to Explain Why Nocturnal
    Emissions Happen SO MUCH oh Lord How embarrassing when

    You are Growing

    up as the only

    Male in a Household

    With no one to give you a
    Clue of WHAT’S WRONG WITH YOU…

    It’s Like the Movie ‘Carrie’ And the Ignorance
    Portrayed in that Movie When She Started Her
    Menstrual Periods i was Literally Concerned

    Someone Might Say i deserve to go to Hell

    For Being

    Human
    For Being
    Human For Being
    Human For Being Human Being…

    We LiVE iN A Very Ignorant World
    When it Comes to Talking about

    THE Greatest

    Need

    to

    Even

    Survive….

    And It’s True in Japan
    Young Folks Have Lost
    A Desire to Procreate with
    Each Other And In Not Doing
    So That Culture is Figuring out

    Just How Much of a Need to
    Survive Sex really is again AS the WORK OF THE NIGHT

    TO KEEP THE HUMAN CONDITION COMING BACK AGAIN for real…
    The Same thing is Happening in the United States too With Lower Levels
    of Fertility Among the Young; However, Humans are Living Out of Balance

    With the Rest of Nature

    And this is the

    Consequence

    of What Happens
    When Any Species
    Lives out of Balance with
    The Rest of Nature They Start to Naturally Go Away…

    Hmm, Interesting Subject Sex is Indeed And Difficult
    For Humans to Discuss in a Modern Mature Truly Rational Way…

    Yet of course, Not Everyone is Afraid With Life Experiences And Thicker Skin…

    And What Song For This, i Guess “The Show Must Go On” By Three Dog Night Hehe..

    HAha, Human,
    One of the

    Only Animals
    Besides Sea Horses
    And the Such Who
    Routinely Forget

    The Need of Sex in Life…

    Yes, Yes, Oh God Yes, No, Yes

    A Result of Modern CuLTURES

    Yes It’s True Some Folks
    Are Just Too Stressed Out
    to Do it With Each Other at all

    Yet never the Less the Show

    Goes On in the Work of Other Ways
    As A Basic Need of Surviving This Life As Is…

    Honestly, Human Beings Haven’t Advanced Much in the Being…

    Overall, There’s Plenty

    Of Evidence
    We’ve all
    in General
    Devolved

    Somewhat
    in One Lifetime

    Now So Far away
    So Fallen from an Original Garden Of Loving All of
    Our Nature And The Rest of Nature Freer in Balance Now…

    It’s True A Group of Apes Hugging Each Other Naked When
    Human Apes Approach Them in the Zoo Experience More

    Warmth in
    Life than

    Many
    Humans
    Ever do.. So Sad…
    i Used to Have Human
    EYes so Cold Like that too…

    i do Understand What Being ‘Cold’ Means…

    When ‘the Show’ Just No Longer Goes on Anymore Forever Now…

    So Far Away

    From a Place

    Love Doesn’t Exist…
    Then Ya Understand
    God is Love If Ya ever
    Are Fortunate Enough
    to Meet God Is Love Ever In Life…

    Like

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