Expectation and Dependency

I believe expectation and dependency are two of the main causes of unhappiness.
Think about it; if you're dependent on somebody, your life can be a heap of crappiness.
If you earn your own living, 
there's no need for obligations and thanksgiving.
If you have your own accommodation,
you are in a very good situation.
If you have the freedom to make your own choices,
you'll learn how to ignore the noises.
If you're emotionally independent,
you'll have more peace and may be pleasant.
If you can do your jobs yourself,
And you don't need to implore for help.
If you have health at your side,
you can take care of yourself with pride.

And after being independent, if you still have expectations,
you are the one to blame for those complications.
If you expect people to care about you,
you seriously need to change your view.
If you expect kind words from even a select few,
you'll forever be waiting in that queue.
If you expect success to drop right into your lap,
I seriously need to come with my posse and clap.
If you expect others to consider you when they make decisions,
surely, you watch a lot of television.
If you expect loyalty and honesty,
remember those qualities are a rare commodity.

So don't be dependent and don't have any expectation.
Do your job wholeheartedly not expecting any promotion.
Do all the good you do knowing nobody notices a thing.
If you're doing charity, don't expect them to be worshipping.
If you're giving out love, don't expect it to be reciprocated.
That will just drain you more and make you frustrated.
Love unconditionally; feel connected with those select few spiritually.
Don't expect returns like time, effort, loyalty and understanding; that's thinking rationally.
Like, if you choose to have kids, don't look at them as your old-age investment.
And then pile on the things you did for them hoping to claim a reimbursement.
Have kids for the sheer joy of parenting.
To love and care and be encouraging.
Not because you wish to carry on with the family name.
To insure your legacy, someday to claim.
Live, work, smile, love and care.
After all, only for few moments, you're there.
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This poem is purely literary. I have the most amazing and supportive family with a very modern outlook. Throughout my upbringing, I was always given the gift of choice and freedom and even today, I put a premium on those attributes. Please read it with an open mind and out of respect for the written word. To me, writing is my life. There is nothing I love more. I have a very creative imagination. Most of my poems do not hint at my life/situation. Kindly refrain from drawing such parallels. Much of what I write is purely fictional. I have always written from my heart …about topics that I am passionate about – Christianity, makeup, melancholic poetry, food, romance, women’s issues, soulful music, narratives etc. Given the circumstances, my gender, situation, geography etc., I feel the need to put up a disclaimer every time I write a romantic/melancholic/intense piece. Everyone is entitled to an opinion. But, please don’t interpret this poem in a way it was not intended. That is just my humble request. Please note, some of my writings may contain material unsuitable for children.



  1. Wonderful poem Rue! Much of the time it’s so true that things aren’t even. What you give isn’t necessarily what you’ll receive in return. But occasionally you’ll find a rare friend who is eager to be a giver in return. It’s very rare. But it does happen and it’s very special. Hold on to those gems of friends.

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    1. I completely agree with you there, Tina. Life is such a learning experience. 🙂 Still learning and will continue till my last breath. … 🙂


  2. Expectations causes disappointments true words more than economic it is emotional dependence causing pain,anger,hurt as always you have written well Ruelha an independent strong beautiful woman both inside and out god bless❤️❤️❤️

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    1. Absolutely agree with you there, Geets. One must concentrate on being self sufficient in every aspect. Only when you are confident and happy yourself, you can radiate that joy and peace unto others. Otherwise it’s just few people using each other as crutches, which can also work. But, if you’re stable and a strong pillar, you’ll never fall, irrespective 😉


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