Privileges : Friend or Family?

I had a childhood friend.
As a teenager, I've known him since then.
He was part of our close friends circle.
At a time when all of us were nocturnal.
Christmas dances and birthday parties.
When it wasn't legal for us to own car keys.

And then life happened and we lost touch.
A decade of years, it's been that much.
But now, he married someone dear from my immediate family.
So he's present for just about everything, actually.
Ever since that happened, I've been elated.
But, there is something that seems debated.

It's so awesome to have that comfort level at family events.
Because of the camaraderie we shared as kids when we were friends.
This time as the family got together, I asked him jokingly,
I'm confused; are you my friend or are you family?
To which he laughed and responded, "a bit of both."
I am just too excited to have a friend back, and that growth.

But, later when I sat to ponder,
our conversations made me wonder.
Had he been just a friend, I wouldn't have to filter.
There are certain things, I wouldn't tell my sister.
Certain things only a friend can empathize and understand.
Although family is what will really have your back and behind you stand.

They say blood is thicker than water.
You obviously love your friend lesser than your daughter.
And immediate family members, they'll be around forever.
Barring few exceptions, odds are - they'll stick together.
With family, you fight and make up.
Many chances are given if at all there's a break up.

So a friend and a family member has disparate set of privileges.
Both have a place in your heart, but one's like a city and the other's a village.
Once you've subconsciously defined a person's category.
you'll know how much to reveal and with what intensity and clarity.
I'm so glad with the way things shaped up and these events.
I just enjoy ruminating; I'm happy to have a new family-friend!
-RUELHA 
www.ruelha.com 
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a dozen years ago

17 Comments

    1. πŸ˜‰ Without definition and a framework, it is difficult to anticipate and fulfill expectations, tasks, responsibilities. You need to know what a person is to you and vice versa. It makes things a whole lot simpler, eh?

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